People often complain about how the friends you have on Facebook aren’t real friends. Personally they are perfect for me because the friends I make in real life are often have a short shelf life.
I’ve only ever had a few really great friends. I can probably count them on one hand. In my years I have encountered a select few people who can see that while sarcastic and slightly mean spirited I can be entertaining given the chance. Given my hobbies and passions outside of work my home has almost always been a great place to relax and entertain. The friendships I have cherished have burned brightly but never lasted as long they should of.
Highschool friendships were doomed for the most part almost immediately. The person you are for those 4 years can change rather quickly once you enter the real world. I actually have better relationships with most of my ex-girlfriends now and hardly talk at all to any to the guys I went to school with. That either says something about them or something about me. I’m not sure which.
College friends are next up. Only had one close friend in college and I can’t count him dying in a car crash against my ability to keep friends. We spoke with decent regularity up until the days before the accident. With meeting my wife at college I didn’t really bother getting close to many other people.
The friends I had in Orlando were mostly drinking buddies since the jobs we did kept us wanting to constantly drown our sorrows and bad days. I had two friends that were more than that to me and honestly I just lost one’s phone number and they other never replied to messages for the longest time.
Making friends once I moved to where I am now was tough. I was constantly older than the high school kids we would employ at work and being a homebody meant I never went other places to meet other people. I had video game buddies who would come over numerous time each week but it took a long time to meet some decent people who I connected with.
Those few would go on to before very close friends and a few even became neighbors. I’d feel much worse about losing them and having them just be Facebook friends but the destruction of those friendships were not all my doing and that is a bit of relief to me. I certainly miss them and I’ve even reached out to them before to try and recover what was lost. I enjoy the time I spend with my wife and son but it certinly would be nice to have a friend to go out with or just hang out with but honestly after all I’ve written about above I’m doubtful I’ll even bother making “real” friends again.
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